Parenting Facilitation | Court Ordered Parenting Coordination

A child is entitled to enjoy the following rights:

  1. The right to be treated as an important human being, with unique feelings, ideas and desires and not as a source of argument between parents.
  2. The right to a sense of security and belonging derived from a loving and nurturing environment which shelters them from harm.
  3. The right to a continuing relationship with both parents and the freedom to receive love from and express love for both.
  4. The right to parents who will listen to and show respect for what their child has to say.
  5. The right to express love and affection for each parent without having to stifle that love because of fear of disapproval by the other parent.
  6. The right to grow and flourish in an atmosphere free of exploitation, abuse and neglect.
  7. The right to know their parents’ decision to divorce is not their responsibility and they will still be able to live with each parent.
  8. The right to continuing care and guidance from both parents where they can be educated in mind, nourished in spirit, and developed in body, in an environment of unconditional love.
  9. The right to receive developmentally appropriate answers to questions about changing family relationships.
  10. The right to know and appreciate what is good in each parent without one parent degrading the other.
  11. The right to have a relaxed, secure relationship with both parents without being placed in a position to manipulate one parent against the other.
  12. The right to have one parent not undermine time with the other parent by suggesting tempting alternatives or by threatening to withhold activities with the other parent as a punishment for the child’s wrongdoing.
  13. The right to be able to experience regular and consistent parental contact and the right to know, in a developmentally appropriate manner, the reason for not having regular contact.
  14. The right to be a child and to be insulated from the conflict and problems of parents.
  15. The right to be taught, according to developmental levels, to understand values, to assume responsibility for their actions, and to cope with the just consequences of their choices.
  16. The right to be able to participate in their own destiny.
  17. The right not to be used as a messenger or spy between parents.

Recommended Reading for Children

Preschool

Cain, Double Dip Feelings:  Stories to Help Children Understand Emotions.  Magination Press, 1990

Lansky, Vicki.  It’s Not Your Fault, Koko Bear, A read together book for parents and young children during divorce.  Book Peddlers, 1998

Elementary School

Cleary, Beverly.  Dear Mr. Henshaw.  New York:  Marrow, 2000
Field, Mary Blitzer and Shore, Hennie.  My Life Turned Upside Down, But I Turned It right Side Up.  Center for Applied Psychology, Inc., 1994

Girard, L.   At Daddy’s on Saturday, Albert Whitman & Company 1987

Ricci, Isolina.  Mom’s House, Dad’s House, Fireside Publishers

Lansky, V., It’s Not Your Fault Koko Bear, Book Peddlers, 1998

Stinson.  Mom & Dad Don’t Live Together Any More, Annick Press Limited, 1997

Vigna, Judith.  I Live with Daddy, Whitman and Company 1997

Preteen and Teen

Cleary, Beverly.  Dear Mr. Henshaw.  New York:  Marrow, 2000

Kline, Norma.  Breaking Up.  New York:  Avon, 1980

Krementz, Jill.  How it Feels When Parents Divorce.  New York:  Alfred A. Knopf, 1988

Ricci, Isolina.  Mom’s House, Dad’s House for Kids.  New York:  Fireside, 2006